How to attract Women!

Try growing stubble, for according to a new research, ladies are more smitten by men with stubbly chins than those with clean-shaven faces or full beards.

According to the study, which was conducted by Northumbria University researchers, stubble is the way to win a woman’s heart. As for the reason, why women find men with stubble attractive: they find them tough, mature, aggressive, dominant and masculine and the best romantic partners.

The findings of the experiment, carried out on British women aged 18 to 44, could explain the appeal of actors such as George Clooney and Brad Pitt who cultivate their unshaven look. The explanation for the preference is not clear, but experts in human evolution say that that facial hair may be a signal of aggression because it boosts the apparent size of the lower jaw.

The research team believes that stubbly men may offer women the best worlds - not too strongly masculine, but mature and with the potential to grow a full beard. The researchers carried out the study using computer technology to alter pictures of 15 men’s faces. Five levels of facial hair were used - clean-shaven, light stubble, heavy stubble, light beard and full beard.

The pictures were shown to 76 women who were asked to rate them for masculinity, aggression, dominance, attractiveness, age, and social maturity. They were also asked how desirable each man would be as a short-term or long-term partner. Faces with full beards were judged to be the most masculine, aggressive and socially mature. They were also believed to look five years older.

They were rated the least attractive and the worst choice for a short-term relationship. Men with light beards were considered the most dominant. Those with light stubble were rated the most attractive and as the ideal romantic partner for short or long term.

Clean-shaven men finished bottom for masculinity, dominance, aggression, and social maturity and they were the least favoured choice as a long-term partner. They came second-to-last for attractiveness.

“Facial hair, or beardedness, is a powerful sociosexual signal, and an obvious biological marker of sexual maturity. Facial hair may have been sexually selected by females on the basis of associated male success, despite its threatening appearance. Clean-shaven faces therefore may suggest appeasement, as well as being an obvious sign of sexual immaturity,” the Telegraph quoted the researchers, as saying.

"Increasing levels of facial hair were associated with increased perceptions of aggression, in that bearded faces were perceived as being the most aggressive, whilst clean-shaven faces were rated as being the least aggressive. And as facial hair increased in a linear fashion, so did female ratings of masculinity and dominance,” they added.

Are you Scared Of Getting Married??

More and more men are now choosing to stay single – not because they love their freedom but because they are scared of a bad marriage or ending up marrying the wrong person. At least that’s what a recent survey suggests.

"I wanted to give some women an insight into why some smart, successful men opted to stay single - and help lifelong bachelors understand why they are still the solo man at parties," the Courier Mail quoted Carl Weisman, 49-year-old bachelor, who conducted the online survey to research his book, as saying.

The survey involving 1500 heterosexual men showed that men were 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than of never getting married at all.

It also found that about eight per cent of the respondents didn’t want to marry, 62 per cent wanted to marry, of which half won't settle for anything less than perfection, and about 30 per cent who are on the fence. Four out of 10 bachelors did not want children, compared to three out of 10 wanting to be a father. The rest were undecided.

Bachelor boys

But how would it be to stay a bachelor all your life only because you are not sure of what the future holds for you or being afraid that you will marry someone who may fail to live up to your expectations...

“I think everybody is scared of marrying the wrong person in today’s world. Why most men fear it is because they are scared of losing their freedom. But you can’t help falling in love, it just happens. If you know your partner and trust him/her, everything with eventually fall in place,” says TV actor Aamir Ali.

Agreeing with Aamir, actor Hiten Tejwani who has been married for four years says, “If you know what you want from your partner, only then you should go ahead with the relationship, else call it quits. It’s extremely important to know and understand each other before you commit.”

It’s all about money, honey!

Financial issues, both positive and negative, may also play a crucial role in men's fear of commitment. "Those with little money said they would have nothing to offer a partner, with some suffering self-esteem issues and withdrawing from the dating pool," said Weisman. "While those who are financially sound were terrified what a bad divorce could do to them," he added.

Agreeing with that, Hiten says, “Financial stability certainly makes it easier for a man to get into a relationship because you know that you’ll be able to take care of your partner.”

Does that also mean that men are afraid of taking responsibility or are not easily ready for commitment?

“It’s not necessarily the fear of commitment or responsibility. It is mainly because people develop insecurity and anxiety as to how things will shape up in the future. Moreover, owing to extreme work pressure and other commitments, these days it has become difficult for men to find enough time for their personal life,” says Dr Samir Parikh, a psychiatrist.

Perfect lives

Another factor that may be keeping men away from getting into a relationship is their search for perfection. High expectations are an important factor that makes men think twice before committing. “Everyone needs companionship. But at times, people’s expectations are rigid which acts as a hurdle in finding a partner,” adds Dr Parikh.

So, if you are expecting your ‘special someone’ to be Miss Perfect or Miss Right, you’d better be prepared for a long, long wait. But if you are certain
that your partner doesn’t mind your snoring or your evening soirees with your buddies, loves your mom and her cooking...then just grab her before it’s too late!

Try This: Crush Or Flush!

Here is a better and a much safer way of online dating. There are no obligations, there are no hard feelings. Its as simple as "Crush or Flush". Its the most simplest way to get in start flirting or whatever. Just sign up and there you go! Meet People rite away!
You browse people by gender, age, location, and interest (tags). If you find someone you like ‘crush’ them. If not, ‘flush’ them. Don’t worry… they’ll never know you flushed them so no hard feelings. If you Crush someone and they Crush you back… that’s called a Mutual Crush. You’ll both get a text message letting you know that you both like each other. You can then text chat without giving up any of your personal info. Later on, if you want to exchange digits on your own, that’s your deal. Ball’s always in your court.

Should one-night stands be forgiven?

One-night stands are not meant to be either forgotten or forgiven in a relationship. In such a scenario, there is no scope for argument or any kind of discussion. The erring partner should be left alone. If he indulges in something of the sort, then there is something missing in the relationship and hence, there’s no point carrying on with it.

Although forgiving may sound like a gesture full of love and compassion, but once the trust is gone, things can never be the same again.

And then, there is always this unknown fear that he might make the same mistake again and have a one-night stand. And every time your partner will step out alone, you would think, ‘What must he be doing right now? Who is he with?’ Such doubts may crush your relationship. And it might even become a burden for both the partners – with one constantly doubting the other and the other always trying either to prove himself innocent or trying to hide his wrong deeds. A crack in a glass can never be joined, the glass just has to be changed.


If my wife gets to read this, I’ll have a one-night stand – with me standing outside the house for nights together. But, jokes apart, it all depends on the situation and how well the spouse understands it. After all, to err is human.

People having one-nights stand is not an alien thing – it’s been happening from time immemorial and could even continue to happen. Often, people end up becoming victims of situations that are a result of the circumstances that build around you at a given point of time.

It’s like anger. You don’t have to be a hyper individual but sometimes, depending on the situation, you can get into a rage. Some people have been known to kill in a fit of rage. Likewise, our mind reacts to situations that could get out of control.

However, one should not pass a judgment on an individual who’s had a one-night stand. I’ve seen it happen with some friends – both men and women. Films generally show the husband having a one-night stand and the wife eventually forgiving him, not the other way round, but in real-life, I’ve seen the wronged partner – both male and female – forgive the erring spouse. After all, it depends on the relationship you share. And, of course, where there are children to consider.

I guess, once or perhaps even twice, it can be forgiven, but not if you have a habit of going around having one-night stands.

Does online dating end in failure?

Internet dating, which sparks such a rush of emotions between people even before they have met, often ends in disappointment and failure.

According to a new study, the initial spate of replies a person gets on net dating sites makes them seem very popular.

The kind of attention is a lot more “than if they had walked into a bar”, said Matthew Bambling of the Queensland University of Technology, who led the study,

“It gives a feeling of being powerful. The online environment doesn't have the conventions and context of a real life meeting and so online interactions can have a bigger impact on a person,” Bambling noted.

He said this lack of inhibition that online interactions allow means some people are carried away by their feelings and “don't use their heads as they would in normal social situations when meeting people”.

Bambling said he has seen people in counselling regarding the consequences of making emotional investments in people they had been emailing after meeting them on line.

“They often become quickly emotionally involved and invest in the other person before meeting. After meeting they move too fast because an emotional relationship actually started when they began interacting online before meeting, in which time they build up a fantasy view of the other person,” he said.

“When they do meet, often the other person is not always what they had imagined but if they are already emotionally invested they go out anyway. They can end up wasting a lot of time trying to make it work.”

Bambling said to avoid pitfalls in online dating people should arrange to meet up after the first few e-mails. This helps to avoid over-investing emotionally or building up a fantasy about the other person.

“The main thing to remember is to make real-life contact as soon as possible if you are interested in someone because it is here that you will know if a relationship is a possibility.”

Is she not warming up to you??

Your rush hour ends when...you reach home
You’ve rushed home, traveling in the packed metro, rush through dinner to rush between the sheets. You do not even bother to switch on the bedside lights, hurriedly talk dirty and start angling in the dark. You are in such a rush that you do not even realize that she is not ready yet. Have you forgotten the most important rule you learnt when you set out in the first place — that women take time to warm up and cool down. Let’s face it; she still has morsels of the caramel custard you had for dessert clinging to her lower lip. Rather than use that to further the play of love, you are going for the kill right away. If you do not stop in your tracks now, she will be put off sex (with you) for a long time.

You’re not acting in a porn film
Porn sites, even the classic Kamasutra, can teach you a lot. But it’s impossible to master all those painful contortions. Sexologists will tell you that while sex can be flirtatious and meaningless even among committed people, the best moments are those that have some heart.
Dude, ensure that she is comfortable and do not treat her like a porn star. There are two off shoots of this: either she will be completely repelled by your constant requests or may actually turn into wild cat in the bedroom.

Can you handle either?And where did all that gentleness go?
You are a gentleman. She loved that about you right at the beginning. That’s what drew her to you. She loves the fact that you are a conscientious lover; gentle all the way. But (and this might confuse you, as we have just told you that gentleness does take a man a long way in a relationship) women do like it when a man takes charge. Your courtly love is not getting you far. You have made her feel safe and secure with all your genteelness, but c’mon, be a man. Mix up that gentle-lover attitude with some Tarzan-tactics. Arrive at a middle ground to get anywhere close to her heart.

Remember Chandler from Friends?
This is straight off Friends. And is relevant to many men who are a few years into a relationship. In one of the episodes, Joey remarks what a lazy lover Chandler is after he and Monica emerge from a round in the bedroom. Joey can tell what a lazy lover his friend is, by the way his hair is plastered flat at the back of his head. Lesson number four for you. Guys, there can be nothing more annoying than being with a non-active lover. Whatever happened to caressing and petting through the act? Or would you rather that she cuddle up with the pillow. Let it be known, many women find that very comforting. The pillow does not talk garbage not does it cavort clumsily around the four-poster.

Finally, where’s the innovation, dude?
When was the last time you were inventive? For most women, sex is not so much about the act as it is about the anticipation. Put on some music, read to her, draw a warm bath and light up some aroma candles as a welcome back home from work surprise, or have dinner ready; basically create an atmosphere of romance. Most men dismiss this as being overly girly and a dent to their machismo. Let it be known, most women find a hint of the artistic in men very flattering. And then of course, sex.

What effect does a bikini have on men?

if you want to make your man spend a little more money, all you need to do is strut about in a bikini or other sexy outfits, as such things make men extremely impulsive when it comes to taking decisions either related to money or diet.

Lead researcher Bram Van Den Bergh of Katholieke Universiteit Leuven in Belgium found that the desire for immediate rewards increased in men who looked at pictures of beautiful women or watched video clips of young women in bikinis.

It wasn’t that men were simply distracted by their sexual arousal, which caused them to choose more impulsively. On the other hand, they showed improved cognition and creativity after exposure to sexy stimuli.

From the study findings, researchers concluded that there is one common appetite system in the brain monitoring our desire for a host of pleasures from sweets to pretty faces, alcohol to lotto winnings.

When it is stimulated by a sexy picture or the smell of baked goods, we experience a general craving for anything pleasant. “Basically, you just want to be rewarded,” a magazine quoted Barbara Briers, a researcher at HEC Paris School, as saying. Van Den Bergh and colleagues rendered the bikini-effect powerless by satiating the stirred appetite with a different type of reward – financial security. A sense of personal wealth depends largely on what we perceive to be the standard. The researchers manipulated this perception to make male subjects feel relatively rich or relatively poor.

When a questionnaire suggested the average income in society was very small, smaller than most of the subjects’ incomes, the men felt rich in comparison. On the other hand, when the average income was implied to be very large, most of the men began looking at their own earnings as piddling. When the men felt well-off, the bikinis lost their influence.

However, if they considered themselves among the have-nots, they were likely to seek gratification after seeing women running in bikinis. Briers hypothesized, unfulfilled sexual arousal could trigger a subconscious belief that one’s reproductive status is at stake.

Van Den Bergh said that the bikini effect does vary in strength from person to person. While most men are vulnerable to subtle types of stimuli, like sexy ads and touching lingerie, others may need to see a woman nude before feeling impulsive. No matter, Van Den Bergh warned, ‘being exposed to a sexy girl may influence what stock you invest in or what candy bar you buy.’